“Happiness is not a goal…it’s a by-product of a life well-lived.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
Happiness is most often connected to how we perceive our surroundings, happiness does not have any materialistic or momentary value, rather, it is an emotional state when we are content with what we have or with how thing’s have transpired and have fallen into context.
This is James here, and I would like to talk about how you can live a happy life, happiness is not a permanent feeling state though, and will come to an end eventually, nothing is meant to last forever.
When problems arise and when life doesn’t go our way, we usually let it get us down and take precedence over all the joy that had transpired recently prior to what issue took root.
It takes a strong and disciplined mindset to remain intact and to keep your composure when things go awry as well as an almost indomitable will to go the hard yards and stick to what you set out for.
And from time to time you will come across angry, grumpy, downright awful people (Though it may not be entirely their fault that they’re like that), bullies and people who will attempt to put you down.
And as I mentioned, it takes an indomitable will to persevere when times get hard and people get grouchy with you, I would remember all the times when I’ve been in such circumstances and I wanted to let go and just blow off at that person, but then that would affect not only my self-image but my job situation as well as my social status (because employers and professionals care about that kind of stuff).
It is imperative that we learn to let that stuff go (or at least not to hold it on for too long as to turn us into the what hurt us in the first place), we must learn to filter that bad stuff out and to focus on the joy and the fun times that have made us happy throughout our lives.
And even though it may not be an impossible task, it can still be very challenging to filter these thoughts out, the thoughts that would cause us pain, what others say about us or how others would talk or act toward us, here are 10 of the ultimate techniques that you can implement into your daily regimen to begin living a happier and more vibrant you today.
1. Focus more on the positive than the negative.
“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.” ~Jim Rohn
This is much easier than done, but when you can focus more on the moments that have bought you joy, I assure you that your perspective on life will be much more fruitful, livelier and happier.
During the moments when someone may do something that infuriates us, annoys us, they may talk to us in a tone that we don’t quite like or order us around like slaves, try (even if really hard) to filter those negative thoughts out and remember all of the good, positive and enjoyable moments that have occurred recently.
Allow positivity to take precedence over negative thoughts, and slowly but surely (with time and practice), you will begin doing this naturally and without much (if any at all!) on your part.
2. Begin the day with gratefulness.
Waking up with a feeling of gratitude ensures you start your day in good spirits. A thankful heart is a happy heart. Gratefulness is such a powerful feeling because it is the cause and effect of how much we appreciate our surroundings.
You can wake up feeling grateful by simply taking a moment when you first open your eyes to look about and feel a swell of appreciation for everything around you. Recognize how wonderful this moment is, and how good it feels to be here. Today is a gift, and you can do with it what you will. You can choose to make the most of it. You can choose happiness. Take a moment to acknowledge all you have and see the possibilities of the day before you.
Think about what the alternative could be like if you were without everything that you woke up with, think about what you have now, then think about what life would be like without all of it all.
3. Celebrate the little victories.
Life is full of ups and downs, lefts and rights no I’m joking but seriously though, and throughout the lives that we live, there are a lot of small victories that often go unnoticed.
You might have a to-do list that you’re working on, have some things you need to get out of the way? perhaps you need to clear your emails inbox? maybe you have some chores back home that you need to get out of the way?
Did you manage to complete them? maybe you completed a small project or a side gig recently? congratulations and give yourself a pat on the back for completing it!
You know what they say? it’s the small things in life that matter the most. This couldn’t be truer, so celebrate the small victories and congratulate yourself on those aspects.
4. Let go of the guilt, the worries and the pain of your past.
This is way easier said than done, I know because I have a lot of painful past experiences that I can’t seem to let go.
Although at the very least you can try, begin with Self-Talk, think about every situation that has had a very big impact on how you feel today and have led you to become the person you are today.
Perhaps you still harbor some painful traumatic past experiences that are still haunting you today, the thing is as smart as we are we often tie ourselves down and feel depressed and pessimistic about the things that are out of our control (for instance, we can’t control the entire circumstance that we go through, but we can control how we respond and react to hem).
What you should be telling yourself (continuously) as well as thinking about how the majority of things that don’t go the way we like it to are out of our control, therefore we have little control of what the end result will be like, and we often become depressed because we tell ourselves ‘things could’ve been different if I did this or that differently.
Remember and separate the things that you can control over the things that are out of your control, you can control whether you go to work at 6:00 am in the morning but you can’t control someone else’s feelings and how they feel about you (you can influence them but you can’t control them).
Things may not always go the way you want them to, but you can control how you respond and react to those circumstances, so begin with self-talk, remind yourself that almost everything that you feel sad or depressed about was beyond your control and you will feel a huge weight lifted off your shoulders.
5. Create for yourself goals and benchmarks to aspire to and achieve.
What is life without goals and something to aspire to? whether it be something short-term, very short term or something long-term, its good to have something to look forward to in life.
it is absolutely important that we create goals and passions to define ourselves uniquely and something that we can call our own and work toward, something(s) that we can pride ourselves on.
These goals can range from traveling to a different country to spectate and to visit tourist sites, perhaps you and your team have been practicing hard to beat the other team, maybe you’ve got an assignment and a deadline to complete it in.
Perhaps even, you would like to create your own business, build your own complex or create your very own game/app, there are many possibilities to choose from and you are only limited by your own imagination.
What do you want out of life? what do you want to create and/or to accomplish? find out for yourself and make a goal to achieve and something you’d like to aspire to accomplish.
6. Practice mindfulness.
Meditation of the mind can go a very long way, we become busy and we get too caught up in the noise of things, we take in new information as we go through different experiences, though this can make things quite cluttered up there in our thinking space.
We take on the troubles that we go through and we keep all that information (both the good and the bad) in our headspace, we never really take the time out to meditate, collate and organize everything that is going on/has happened.
Meditation can be a very good way of release, to gather all of the day’s thoughts, experiences, what you felt and to just, let it all go and move on to the next day, I have been told that mindfulness has helped so many people cope with what they have been going through.
So practice some mindfulness yourself, take some time out to meditate at the end of each day before you go to sleep, it may not do anything for you at first but with practice and time, mindfulness and meditation can help you let go of all the things that would hold you back from living a happier you.
7. Saying no when you feel the time is right too.
It’s so much easier to say yes, especially when it means your getting more pay if you say yes when your boss asks you if you can work more hours, but saying no in times when you feel you’re about to collapse from exhaustion is nothing to feel bad about.
Saying no sometimes can actually be what you really need, take some time out and enjoy a relaxing day or two, maybe your friends asked if you wanted to go out and have a few beers at the pub or wanted to go and hang out somewhere but you’re feeling too tired and stressed out, it’s time to say no and have some time alone to yourself.
Enjoy some peace and free time, put your feet up and have a donut or two, be kind to yourself and you’ll begin appreciating things more, becoming more resilient and being able to say no without feeling bad when you need to.
7. Find a sense of community.
As human beings, we are very social creatures, we crave to interact with others, not only of our species but animals as well as other phenomena.
We crave to connect to our surroundings, we want to find others to confide in, we need connection, and this is why it is absolutely mandatory that you find people whom you can connect with and talk about life’s experiences.
I wouldn’t suggest you go out and talk to whomever you find and tell them about your life’s story because not everyone may be interested in hearing and have their own problems to deal with.
Begin with slowly opening yourself up to people, remember that trust is earned and not given freely, they may or may not begin to open up to you. If they don’t then oh well, you know when your friendship is not wanted to move on to the next person who is interested in hearing you out.
However, keep in mind to not overtalk yourself, listen to their story as well, where they come from and what they’ve gone through, it’s all about a little give and takes.
If you and that person or group do connect then well done! you have successfully made yourself a part of something bigger than just you.
Your circle is growing bigger and you will feel a sense of being involved as well as being a part of something, and ultimately feeling like you fit in and that you matter (which you do!).
I’m almost absolutely positive that you have come across exercise as being one of the main aspects/elements of living a more fruitful life, truth is, is that it is.
Exercise is a necessity when it comes to living a happier life, it balances out your work life from your personal life, exercise gives us the peace of mind and thought and works out not only our body but our minds ability to properly manage our thoughts.
Not only that but it also releases these hormones that make us feel good (I’m sure you know what these are) called endorphins, endorphins are basically bodily chemical fluid that our brain releases which travel throughout our nervous system which in turn our body likes very much so.
In the process of accordance with the hierarchy of which comes first and which comes last regarding our body and mind, we must first train our body and then our mind will follow suit, not only should you focus on training your body, but you should also train your mind too! (both are important).
When exercising your basically getting to birds with one stone (two at the same time), so go on and get a workout or two in there, it may hurt during or after or even the following day, but you’ll be thankful for it in the long run and you’ll feel better about yourself too!
8. Get the right amount of sleep.
The recommendation from doctors as well as professional medical practitioners alike is that you get between 6-8 hours of sleep per night/day for a well relaxed and well-rested you.
The amount of sleep that you get heavily impacts your overall mood and how well you will feel throughout the day, waking up multiple times a night? I’ve been told that’s quite normal just as long as you get those total amount of hours of sleep.
I myself have weighed the days when I have gotten around that amount of hours of sleep and when I got around 6 or 5 hours of sleep and I have noticed a dramatic difference in my overall mood for the following day.
Moreover, it doesn’t matter much if you sleep over 8 hours in one sitting (considering that it doesn’t interfere with your working hours), just as long as you hit the minimum recommendation.
trust me, you’ll feel a lot better with the more sleep you get! a lot of other people can tell you the same and I’m 100% sure that it will work for you too!
9. Managing your stress levels.
You cannot avoid stressful situations, but you can find ways to relieve your stress. You can use relaxation techniques, such as meditation, visualization, tai chi, yoga, and deep breathing.
The main cause of stress is financial stability or is in some way connected to finances. That is why it is a massive and huge achievement in life to become financially successful and financially well-off
There are a plethora of ways in order to properly manage one’s own stress levels, however, everyone is different and what works for one person may not work for someone else.
Perhaps some mindfulness and meditation might do you some good, try to organize your thoughts and plan ahead, most of the time when stressful situations arise for us is due to the lack of a proper plan formed.
So remember to plan ahead to avoid stress or to decrease the amount of stress that you have. the less stress you have the better and more vibrant life will seem to you.
10. End the day by writing down 3 things that you were grateful for.
Another awesome way of ending the day is to write down three amazing things that you were grateful for that transpired throughout the day that you had, it doesn’t have to be big thing’s, it can be small thing’s but the thing’s that made you happy and cheerful nonetheless.
Think about all of the joyful and cheerful thing’s that made you happy throughout the day, amongst those many things, choose three and write them down on a piece of paper, really let those three things sink into your head.
Continue doing this for a week straight, you will begin to see how drastic of a change it has made when you really think about all of those things that you were grateful and that made you happy throughout the week.
Drawing a conclusion.
To live life with no regret, to help another without any desire of materialistic reward, to live a happily and fruitful life – that is the quintesence of life itself. – Annonymous.
Implementing these awesome 10 techniques into your daily regimen will ultimately guarantee you a more fruitful and happier life.
It may not happen instantly, but nothing great does, good things take time and even greater things take longer, remember that without the bad there can be no good and vise Versa.
Everything is an equilibrium, there can be none without the other, just like yin and yang, two halves make a whole whereas nothing can come from just the one.
We are all looking for a way to learn how to live a happier life, sometimes desperately, we often become so conflicted with life’s ordeals that we let them get the best of us, ultimately taking us over and letting it define ourselves as a whole.
We can take problems as well as other people’s problems, but we must not let them take over else they become our definition and what we are.
Continue to put these implementations into practice, hone in on positivity, gratefulness, and mindfulness, I promise that it does help, and you will become happier from it.
Nothing is impossible, the only thing that limits you from succeeding and being the best version of yourself is you.
This is James signing off, sound your thoughts in the comment section below, do you have anything you would like to add, perhaps you would like to contribute a post, an idea, your own work or maybe just talk with like-minded people.
Stay safe and continue to strive for success.