“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion for reaching for the stars to change the world.”
Whenever things go out of control, people create an escape route and play the victim; they blame their destinies and sit idle repenting, cursing, or going crazy. People hate to get out of their comfort zone and put some effort into being better.
But thinking about a change needs determination and enthusiasm. There is no standard model or explanation of a ‘Perfect Life,’ but making it better is essential. Human beings are different from other living beings because they have the intellect to think, evaluate, and make the decision. So just depending on destiny is not the way and expected norms of living.
External factors, other people, and unexpected occurrences can affect life and eventually push someone to the edge; some surrenders and indulge in go with the flow, and some fight back and bring a change.
Here are 8 Steps to Redesign the Life
1. Be Dissatisfied
Being dissatisfied has nothing to do with self-confidence. But being too much satisfied with life can impede if someone is willing to change or redesign his or her life. Being discontented with the present state is a kind of motivation that works in a very subtle way. It triggers the inner urge to be better, and it reprograms the subconscious mind. Self-interrogation can help in this phase. Questioning the very existence, the dreams, and the present life can lead to a stage where the delusion about ‘everything is Okay’ eventually falls apart. On the second hand, the readers of this particular article already started feeling dissatisfied with life. And it is good to think like that. This displeasure is the backbone of all the motivations you are going to need to change your life.
2. Circumstantial Change
Life consists of two kinds of elements, Tangibles, and Intangibles. To alter or redesign the living, starting with these basics is always a good idea.
Talking about tangible elements, small changes like changing the furniture position, change the foods to eat, drinking more water, traveling, etc., these matters. The external minimalism helps to think clearer; the feeling of eating healthy motivates them to eat healthier, etc. That is why, standing in front of a calm ocean, soothes the restless mind.
Now changing intangible factors are a bit tricky and needs a lot more effort than substantive issues. Habits, emotions, and reactions can be considered as invisible elements of life. It is like changing the daily routine, waking up a bit earlier, saving a bit more, watching less Netflix, etc.
3. Set Realistic Goals
The entire change depends on the personal goals of each person. There are many areas of life, like family and friends, relationships, financial status, education, career, personality, health & fitness, etc. First, a person needs to decide which are the focus areas or the areas he or she is dissatisfied with. According to human psychology, no one can ever be delighted. So writing down the fields and breaking them into small steps to work on, is the best strategy to follow.
Take health and fitness, what is the personal goal – to lose some pounds or to gain some weight or to be more flexible? Then create a strategy depending on that goal and capacity. Setting a deadline to achieve that can help to stay focused. Otherwise, everyone will take their life and procrastinate the hard works.
4. Take Small Steps
It is all right to be disappointed with all the aspects and areas of life. Most people go through that stage. But trying to change everything at once may overwhelm and eventually discouraged to do anything to change at all. Even Superman had to try a lot of small leaps before flying to Krypton.
Changing everything at once can make someone feel demotivated. So the best strategy is to take one goal and start with small steps, like starting with eating five almonds after waking up or start running in a park than registering for a marathon.
Health is three dimensional: Body, Mind, and Heart or physical, mental and emotional. So balancing them by giving some time to adapt anything new at a slow and gradual pace is always a good idea.
5. Be Uncomfortable
“Change your life today. Don’t gamble on the future, act now, without delay.”
Simone de Beauvoir
Now, no one likes to get out of bed or a comfortable couch and go for a run to make a change. Feeling lazy is one of the primary perks of being born in a technologically advanced age. The brain is well aware of the fact that now people do not need to go for a hunt just to feed themselves, they have apps to order their food. So why bother!
But change means going against personal comfort and trick the sluggish brain. So getting rid of, “I will do it tomorrow” syndrome and going to the gym against the will is the first step.
6. Read Good Books
Good Books helps to widen up awareness about life, add different dimensions to thoughts. Books help to learn about other people’s lives and experiences, changing the point of views, etc. be it the biographies of great leaders and entrepreneurs, the obstacles they faced and their way of handling those, or just a travelogue of a solo traveler who reinvented himself during his journey, every book has a potential to enlighten life.
7. Do Something New and Challenge the Fears
Having fears is part of being a mortal being with feelings. Worries of failure, fears of behaving weird, and the sense of losing something special are prevailing uncertainties people face. But facing the fears and triumphing over it boosts confidence and motivation if someone is looking for a change.
There are lots of free online courses, support groups that can be helpful if he or she is looking to learn something. Maybe learning to play Ukulele can work as a stress buster after a busy and hectic day, or learning to bake will make kids happier.
8. Overall Look Change
Changing the look can sound like a silly idea, but it has a significant effect on the self-idea. Behavioral changes can be felt gradually, and it takes some time, so feeling demotivated is naturally. But a sudden look change can boost mood, motivation, and self-esteem.
A simple hair-cut, a new spec, highlights, and changed wardrobe can make a significant change.
Apart from the above-mentioned steps, there are a few more things than can be added to speed up the life-changing journey. Bringing a change to life need an overall shift in perception about life. Getting read of past regrets, forgiveness, and a willingness to let everything go is the foundation or starting point of this endeavor.